DUT RESIDENCE VISITS A HOME FOR MAIDENS FOR WOMEN’S MONTH
By: Sandile Zikhali
With the whole of South Africa celebrating women’s month this August, Durban University of Technology ladies from Sterling House Residence visited a home for young maidens as a part of this month’s celebration.
The cultural home which is situated in Westrich, Newlands West, houses a number of virgins which are under the supervision of a caring woman named Lipou “MamNgobese” Ngobese.
Ngobese runs a programme called Thathakahle Cultural Group from her own home.
In this programme she advises young girls to take care of themselves as they become young growing women. She also runs virginity testing in her household.
“I run this as a project where I help young girls in need like orphans and girls who don’t have a mother figure in their lives. I teach them how to behave like a woman and the importance of abstaining from sex which is something most girls perhaps need to hear these days,” Ngobese said.
Sterling House residence adviser Oziel Mdletshe said that their residence adopted the home three years ago and since then they have donated mostly clothes, but this year they were also handing over food parcels.
“Most of these girls come from poor backgrounds and this is a way that we as the Sterling House family are giving back to the community. Engaging with these young girls makes them feel important and we are willing to keep on working with MamNgobese- as long as she needs us we will be here,” Mdletshe said.
The event included a feedback session where the young women exchanged advice on how to face the challenges and temptations that young growing women face every day.
As the young women were sharing advice and stories, Sterling House Residence ladies shared that they also have a fair share of challenges they face in life and these have shaped them to be who they are today.
The young maidens have been taught to save the most precious gift they could offer their husbands for marriage. These proud maidens believe that as a woman you should stand for what you believe in. They believe that a woman doesn’t need to offer her body to men to prove that she is in fact, a woman.
Nondumiso Mwandla, a DUT graduate has been living in this home since 2011. She said she is a proud virgin and this has earned her respect.
“Being an outcast was the biggest challenge, but I defeated peer pressure because I know where I come from. My father taught me to be original and I stayed like that from the first day I graduated from Varsity- I am a virgin and I am proud of it,” Mwandla said.
One of the challenges a young maiden faces today is being targeted by older men who usually use money and materialistic things to lure innocent girls into having sex with them. Pressure from friends in varsity and socio-economic pressures often lead young girls astray. What the young ladies gained from this experience was that it requires someone with a strong backbone to persevere.
The ladies from Sterling house said they were inspired by the young maidens.
“I’m grateful to be a part of this. They should continue with what they are doing- the world is a cruel place. I think that most of us should learn from this- we shouldn’t go after things that will not benefit us in the long run. I’m really inspired,” said Sbusisiwe Dumakude who is the project officer for Sterling House Residence.
With women of today losing their dignity and value because they have chosen to go after money and materialistic things, having a group of young women who have loftier goals in life gives hope for the future of the women in South Africa.