BEAUTY STANDS ON DIFFERENT LEGS
“I’M NOT MY HAIR”
“I am not my hair” is a slogan rolling out of many women’s mouths.
“Beauty stands on many legs”, says women gunning down the idea of being defined by their hair.
Mirror! Mirror! Who is the coolest of them all? The best friend and monitor of Miss/Mrs of beauty.
A woman’s hair plays a huge role in defining perceptions of beauty. The length, color, shape and style always count as part of making a statement and a lasting impression.
The question of taste, status and fashion arises as a huge concern for women and beauty. Women who prefer to buy hair believe it is classy and a sign of extreme beauty.
Women and hair styles are like flowers in different flower pots. Some owners water and monitor their flowers as they should, but some do it as they remember.
Certainly there will be those who overdo it! Making a fuss of talking to the flower every morning can become an obsession, and some only remember they had a flower when it’s dead. Thus, not all ladies make a huge deal about their hair even when their respective societies demand that they do.
Being feminine is defined by society more than by ‘self’. Slowly, our culture is adapting to modern “American style”. Many women compromise their culture and religious beliefs to fit in and to do what is acceptable, according to the world they live in.
Even if you prefer to grow your afro or dreads, exterior influences may push you away from your desires and style, by defining what is lady like, what makes a fashion statement and what is just old and unfashionable.
“I am not my hair.” Malefadi Mphafi justified this by saying that trendy hairstyles may help you meet the demands of ‘defined beauty,’ but beauty is more who you are than how you look. Having natural hair doesn’t mean you are not into other ideas of beauty.
It might trouble the older generation that young women prefer fake hair than natural hair, “but who are they?” Cry youngsters. They had their chance of living, young people contend, and now it is the 21st century. “Fake hair isn’t losing your identity,”said ex model Sthembi Ndlovu and she also thinks that looks are deceiving. It is time women defined beauty for themselves. If one takes beauty and hair as a cup of tea, some like their tea black and strong, while some like it sweetened with milk or cream. It is still tea. Just like beauty- whether it is fake, not fake, colourful, and long or short- if it is on you and you feel it, it’s beautiful.
“Fake! Who said fake? I went to the salon and bought it so it’s not fake its mine, I own it,” said a Durban University of Technology student.
“Hair is just a cherry on top of the natural beauty I already have,” said hair stylist, Nokwazi Qumbisa.
It’s a debate between all women can appreciate. Some feel hair is everything when it comes to beauty, and they will climb every mountain that comes their way. “Imagine me without my weave- a disaster, I tell you. Just like leaving home without make-up, a definite NO! NO!” said Charlie Fusi.“I hate the expectations laid on us women and our hair, especially us black women. We straighten our hair by choice, not because we want to be white. People should get off our case!”
So beauty does stand on different legs and we should allow it to stand on its own ground of true beauty. Look for the real face behind that fringe, read the statement made by that hair colour and understand why some ladies rather not follow the trends set in the current century.
They still stand to say “I am not my hair”.
The world still owes women to change the existing image of what is acceptable in our society. An introduction of the true definition of beauty with or without hair is still to come.