MUSIC AND BEING AUTHENTIC IS WHO I AM
Written by: Shanice Pillay
Zimkhita Pinca (20) Marketing Management student is a rape survivor who turned her troubles into triumphs.
“I’m originally from East London. My parents got divorced when I was five. I grew up with my mother and I was a typical girl who loved heels and dressing up, which I got from my mother. The absence of my father did play a huge role in my life but my mother filled that void,” said Pinca.
Describing herself as a quiet and reserved person, growing up she was known to be bubbly and always laughing but most of all, she was a lover music. After overcoming many obstacles, Pinca closed herself off from the world and decided to find who she really is.
“When I was 14 I was raped and everything changed for me. I became isolated from the world, I wasn’t myself. It’s like I became a different person. Throughout my high school years I felt trapped in my own body. I created a bubble for myself. I had trust issues and I didn’t make a lot of friends. When it (the rape incident) happened, I put it behind me,” said Pinca.
She explained that her mother was deeply hurt by what happened to her, but she was supportive and helped her focus on her studies. However, her love for music took turn after her ordeal.
“I joined the choir when I was 12. My mother loved opera music and that’s where I developed a passion for music. But when I got to high school, my love for music completely changed. I grew out of music because of what happened,” said Pinca.
But all that changed when she came to the Durban University of Technology (DUT). Her environment was different to what she knew and she became an independent womon but she needed to find herself. She sought counselling which helped her open up.
“From the counselling, I started writing songs in which I found healing. I was surprised to find that I could actually write music and I could sing. When I focused on my music I started to feel so much better,” she said.
Pinca says being sexually assaulted is difficult and makes one feel like a part of them is missing and it is painful because you are unable to express yourself as a person.
One of the issues she faced was being accepted by society.
“Because I wanted to fit in society, I hated myself because society can be cruel. I tried to change myself so I can be accepted, but when I started to not think about what society thinks I began to love myself,” she said.
The second year student says women should be celebrated every day because they are powerful creatures. Her advice for women is that they speak out about their issues because it brings healing for themselves and others.
Pinca is proud of how far she has come and has no regrets.
“I have no regrets about my life. At first I would regret it but now I don’t. I believe everything happens for a reason and I thank God for carrying me thus far, she said.
Pinca will be releasing a mixtape in November called ‘Get To Know Me’, and a song called Issa Lot, next month.
*Caption: Zimkhita Pinca has used her tribulations as an inspiration to discover her musical talent.