“I AM TRANSGENDER AND NOT AFRAID”
Written by: Shanice Pillay
“I am transgender and I am not afraid of saying it,” said 23-year-old Architectural student, Mickey Singh.
The third year student from the Durban University of Technology has endured a lot over the years with his identity. But establishing who he really is was of prime importance.
“I grew up in church learning about the bible, and my religion and loving it. But there was always something that didn’t feel right with me. I didn’t want to explore that part of me because it seemed wrong because of what I was taught growing up,” said Singh.
When he started the journey of dating girls, he felt more inclined to be male and uncomfortable in his body and adolescent life.
“My body didn’t mirror what I feel inside, that’s when I started my journey into researching sex changes and procedures. Every year I would see new improvements and different changes, that’s when I thought I was lesbian, because I dated girls and I was female, that was my understanding off it,” added Singh.
The research led Singh to discover that he is transgender.
“Being transgender means you are basically not comfortable in the body you are born in so even though you are female, everything I did in my mind didn’t feel female,” Singh explained.
He inclined towards being transgender and learning more about it. One of the major steps he took towards his transitioning was cutting his hair. However, it was hard for his family to accept these changes.
“In high school I had long hair and I decided to cut it and that was a big decision for me. Coming from a religious background, for my family it was a difficult process to comprehend,” he said.
Eventually Singh’s changes grew on his family and they did not stop him from pursuing his plans of becoming who he really is. He then found easier ways to do his transition without the use of surgery. He is grateful for his aunt and uncle, both of whom are doctors and helped him on his journey towards transitioning.
“I discovered that even though the process is long and tedious, it is possible. I did mine privately which is through a general practitioner, psychologist and an endocrinologist which is a hormone specialist. They would test my hormones to see where I can be,” he added.
Singh explained that when it comes to being gay, lesbian or even transgender, society has a stigma that it is not accepted, especially in the Indian society. By him continuing with his process, it helps others embrace their changes and not be afraid of being who they really are.
Through his journey he has found love and is happier at being true to himself.
*Caption: Mickey Singh and his girlfriend Taleah Johnson.