STUDENTS UNDER PRESSURE FROM FAMILIES AND SOCIETY
By: Nosipho Ntombela
Being a student is not easy!
Beside the loads of work that you suffer from, problems that you came across, there is societal and family pressure that you must deal with. When you are not studying, everyone
talks about you and make you feel like a loser.
If you are studying most people wait impatiently to see what you will become, and cannot wait for you to complete your studies.
Real pressure also comes when even our families want us to do things that we cannot afford.
Some families compete with neighbours materialistically on your expense.
Mandisa Mngadi, who studies Fine Art at the Durban University of Technology (DUT), City Campus, said that she doesn’t have a problem with her neighbours, but family.
“I think I can relate to this because of my choice of study.
The chances of me getting a job are slim because art is such a non-commercial industry so companies and government rarely offer arts graduates jobs because it’s always a gamble to whether they’ll make money or not.
To me that’s already pressure from my parent and family because they didn’t go to university. They want to know what you came out with beside your diploma. They expect
permanent jobs so you can uplift the family,” said Mngadi.
Enock Luyanda Chonco, a Facebook user commented on the DUT SRC page that he is stressed because he started his internship a few months ago but his mom is already expecting
big things from him.
“I started doing training which does not give me enough and my mom is already asking me for money that I also do not have. I know that they are not rich and even worse I live with
them.I see all the struggle but I can’t assist.
My mother knows I earn a little, but she doesn’t seem to pay attention to that,” said Chonco.
According to Bekeh MaThucy Nsukwini, the best option is to be honest with your parents and yourself.
“I think we have to be straight and live the original life we deserve.
Do not look at what other people say about you. Sometimes planning can be the answer to do things.
Plan ahead and stick to that. Whatever people say about you is not important than what u think and what you afford during that certain time. People will always talk,” express Nsukwini.
Some believe that being open with your family about your salary at a young age is a remedy for a peaceful living. However, parents also need to understand what you can and cannot
The less financial stress you have from your family, the better opportunities you can make for your own future.